“I hate divorce,” says the Lord God…. Malachi 2:16
“Some pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason? Havn’t you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” Matthew 19: 4
And here is a visual illustration of this verse…..blue = husband & pink = wife
Maybe this visual puts into perspective when we become ONE with our spouse, we no longer are two, so when one/both decide to divorce they no longer can become that same ONE person they were before they married. Keep in mind–becoming one is so much more than just becoming one in sexual intercourse. We become one emotionally, spiritually, and physically. When you saw the blue and pink piece of paper together, that was at one time a couple that said to one another….
I, _____, take you, ______, to be my wedded wife/husband. With deepest joy I receive you into my life that together we may be one. As is Christ to His body, the church, so I will be to you a loving and faithful husband. Always will I perform my headship over you even as Christ does over me, knowing that His Lordship is one of the holiest desires for my life. I promise you my deepest love, my fullest devotion, my tenderest care. I promise I will live first unto God rather than others or even you. I promise that I will lead our lives into a life of faith and hope in Christ Jesus. Ever honoring God’s guidance by His spirit through the Word, And so throughout life, no matter what may lie ahead of us, I pledge to you my life as a loving and faithful husband.
And a very traditional vow that you almost always hear at weddings is:
“For better or for worse”……….. this is a commitment by the marriage partners to rise-up together against those situations that would threaten the marriage covenant relationship from outside the marriage.
I write on this topic today for those that are on the verge of divorce…gosh, I hate even typing that word. I can not tell people what to do, but I can illustrate what you can do to not only yourself, but everyone around you. Little pieces will always be left with your spouse, as you saw me rip the paper apart, it did not come apart evenly and clean as it did before I put them together….it shredded……
Today I have taken the day to pray for anyone that is struggling in their marriage…..
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Anna Pociask, MA